As we get older, we develop relationships with lots of different people. Each relationship will be different. Some will be healthy and will make you feel good about yourself while others may make you feel uncomfortable, unhappy or scared.
It’s important to stay safe, especially if you’re worried or feel a relationship may be going wrong.
If you’re worried about you or a friend, talk to someone you trust like a parent, teacher or a social worker.
You can also call Care Connect on 01275 888 808 or the Police on 101 to talk things through.
If you’re in immediate danger, dial 999 straight away.
Consent means agreeing to do something. Sex is only ever okay if both people involved want to have sex.
Thames Valley Police has produced a video that explains consent by comparing it to offering someone a cup of tea.
Sometimes, people might want to take advantage of you and they might ask you to do sexual things when you don't want to. This is a form of child sexual exploitation (CSE) and it’s not okay. It is abuse and you have the right to be safe from it.
At first you may like, respect or even think you are falling in love with the person exploiting you. This is called grooming which means making you feel ‘special’ so that you become attached or close to this person.
Later on the behaviour of the abuser will start to change little by little. You may feel trapped, isolated and scared. You may find it difficult to admit that you don’t feel safe in the relationship anymore.
Here are some of the messages from local young people who have been sexually exploited:
To find out more about sexual abuse and exploitation, and how to find help or report an emergency, visit the Bernardo's website.
Barnardo's also have an app you can download which will help you stay safe in your relationships and understand the warning signs of abuse.
You can download it for free via your app store.
